Eky's 2Cents

Monday, January 28, 2013


Hey folks,

This is a note from my archives. However, I thought I should share it here because it is still valid and will always be. Happy reading.......

You know, for the most part of our lives, investments become a second nature to most of us. As we work, we invest a part of our earnings in stocks, bonds, real estate, fixed deposits and the various other investment vehicles out there. Even the good old savings accounts serve this purpose; for those of us who are part of the unbanked, we utilize isusu- thrift collections or local safe boxes. Believe it or not, some people still dey bury money for ground sef, i.e. my grandma (God rest her beautiful soul, but that’s a story for another day; forgive my digressions).

We find that most of our time is spent at the work place/carrying out work related activities. This investment is more costly (in my humble opinion, as no amount of money can adequately compensate for time). Whatever time is left is shared by our family, friends, church, lovers, the beer parlour, eateries, the cinema, one night stands, flings, relationships and the ONE MILLION AND ONETY ONE THINGS we can cram it up with. It`s easy to forget that after our work/employers if you will have gotten the best of our youth and energies, the people left with the shells we become are our family, mate and friends.

While the importance of family and your loved one can not be over-emphasized, today`s focus is on FRIENDS. The ones you have known since the days of standing vaults aka black and white TVs that you had to ingeniously colour with the aid of lucozade wrappers. The kind who have known you since you were a gangly teenager (in your ugly uniforms and terrible, double lens frames; remember Steve Urkel of FAMILY MATTERS). Probably those from the university with whom you endured the painful days of `soak and travel garri with Fio-fio beans`. Some of them you dont have a long history with, but they have been there in immeasurable ways for you. Then the greatest kind, the ones who have shared those hair-standing-at-the-back-of-the-neck escapades; the guy you scampered over the fence with when that not so innocent 18year old`s dad dashed for his shotgun; the girl whose house was the alibi for when you went to steal your first kiss from that 1st boyfriend………una know the rest now.

Bottom line, FRIENDS are a cant do without for everyone. We all need them like we need air. I mean, there are some shoes that only a friend can fill. For instance, when that dear boyfriend turns out to be a monster, who else will cry with you? When that girl who was the one rejects your proposal for the guy with the big jeep (you can only afford a tokunbo primera), who else will go on an all night, drinking spree with you, see you wipe your eyes and not make fun of the fact that you claim something just went in? Only a friend will be behind the bars of a cell with you after a fight, even when he/she is sure you were wrong.

How much then, do we invest in our friendships? These days, not much am afraid. We are too busy with seemingly more important things. We are more polite to strangers because we expect our friends to understand/forgive our rudeness. We blow off our friends for a mid-night call to some guy/girl you may never date. While chatting online, you type one line in 15mins to your best bud over some business deal, while typing 80words per minute to your new catch/intended date, as if it were a typing and shorthand examination. You call once in a PURPLE moon, perfunctory calls that last for less than 2mins and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

We forget though, that like talents left unused, friendship begins to fade away as the fabric that holds it together dissipates into thin air. Like a car wheel without its bolts and nuts, it falls apart. Soon, you are left wondering if there ever was a friendship at all.

Let`s learn therefore to become better friends in order to have quality friendships.

L8r folks.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Learning to Forgive

This is usually quite hard for most persons, myself inclusive. Often times, it is easier for me to 'sweep things under the carpet ' and let them fester: sulk a bit and carry a pout. Eventually, it starts to feel like a burden or for me, like confinement. When I keep at it, an implosion occurs...........which is even worse than an explosion, I think.

I have come to discover though, that when I forgive whoever it is that hurt me, I am the one who feels lighter: like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I experience a huge sense of relief, because I actually hate strife and quarrels. I have never been to jail, but I think it can be equated with setting a prisoner free. The amazing part is, I discover that I am the one who has just been released.

Let us stop and analyse it for a moment. When am weighed down with the feeling of a burden, does it affect the other party? No. Especially if the person has apologised. Even when there is no apology, does it not pay me better to let go and be happy, for my health's sake? I certainly think it does. No, scratch that........ I know it, because I have been there.

So, why don't we then make an effort at truly forgiving one another? We need to, not because Eky says so, but for the sake of the world we live in and our individual happiness. Logically, how many people can you  stay mad at and for how long? Let me know views, afterall I have just expressed mine. Am interested in your opinion, so tell in your comments.

Sorry I have been away!

Hello beautiful reader,

So it seems like I took a leave of absence for some days now. Its been Work, Work and more work!!! Bear with me for the neglect.

How have you been? Its a public holiday today (in Nigeria), so most of you are getting the deserved rest, I hope. I am, and I intend to hang out with you here today. So get ready for some interactive time.

See you on the next page. Cheers!!!

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Engaging in Thought

A man's intelligence is not measured by how well he answers questions, but by the quality of questions he asks.- Bishop Mark Omonze

This statement set me to thinking on the day I heard it from daddy. The more I thought about it, the more sense it made. Unfortunately, our educational system here is designed mostly in the question and answer format. Thus, your scope is restricted to reasoning out the answers to the questions you are asked. 

On the other side of the divide, is the individual who reasons beyond the questions he is asked: but goes on to develop his own questions. Bill Gates probably asked himself " how do i simplify the use of computers? Is it not possible to reduce all these programs? How do I make using computers simpler?" Forgive me my creative liberties, but that train of thought led us to the use of Windows and the mouse.... The result? User friendly computers. Multiplier effect? He's on the worlds richest list and has been for quite a number of years.

This was also reiterated by a recent experience, where I was watching some beautiful children. I discovered that children while performing a singular task will come up with 5ways of getting it done. They are creative and utilise their imaginations a lot. So it leaves you wondering what happened to that particular child as he grew older and used his/her brain less. My take? By limiting their creative outlets and teaching them to stereotype their thought processes to the question and answer syndrome. Thus in 12 or 15years, that once very imaginative person, finds it difficult to answer an applied question.

Painful isnt it? However, we can remedy it. By taking a serious look at this next quote and doing something about it.

Only 5% of humans THINK.
15% like to think they are THINKING.
The remaining 80% would rather die than THINK........-Anonymous

So, let's be challenged into putting our brains to use......... Imagine what we could achieve when we do.

Later folks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Welcome to My World

Hi beautiful people, welcome to a 2013 of happiness, self awareness and positivity.

In this corner, you get to know me, my insights and perspectives on many a varying subject....... Your opinions are very welcome, as I am looking forward to a lot of intelligent responses, debates and the like.

So, let' get started. See you in the next post.